Yesterday I was checking my blog and I saw that I had a new comment on my last post about Camden’s appointment with Scottish Rite. I read the comment and I thought of it to be rather rude, I was very confused and I felt like it brought negativity to my blog, a place where I do not accept negativity. I started to write back to this person, who left their comment anonymous. I stopped though. I will admit that this person got to me and made me kind of mad. So I just deleted the comment to cause no other problems.
I am part of a mommy/baby Facebook group (that has been one of my main supporters since the beginning of mine and Camden’s wonderful journey), and before I deleted the comment I shared it with them and told them how I felt about it. Then I deleted the comment from my blog because I felt like I would just give this person satisfaction if I responded. I got some responses from my lovely mommy/baby group; I slept on it, and this morning I feel like I need to address it.
Here is what Anonymous said:
“You’re a good mom and all but seriously you’re not the only one going thru stuff like this how’s about you use your Facebook popularity to bring awareness and show support instead of just talking about you and him all the time. God chose you to be his momma for a reason so be the change that you want to see in the world and show some support and let others be aware so that when we see children like this we will not think of them any differently, we are all equal. Don’t take this the wrong way it just pisses me off when I see people who have the power to make a difference and all they do is talk about themselves almost makes it seem like they want pity. Hope I’m wrong. May God continue to bless you both.”
Well Mr./Ms. Anonymous… instead of just giving you a comment back, I will give you a whole blog post.
At first, I wasn’t even sure if I knew what to say to this comment or if I wanted to say anything at all. Before I deleted the comment, I had something written out, but I didn’t want to regret a word I said. This confused person confused me too… One of the MAIN reasons why I started Camden’s Facebook page and my blog were to SHOW SUPPORT and BRING AWARENESS! I wanted people that are going through the same thing, a similar situation, or even people who aren’t going through anything even close to this to know, Hey we’re here! I didn’t give up on Camden. He’s okay, I’m okay, and you’ll be okay too! I wanted people to know that just because Camden was born with a little less surface area doesn’t mean that its the end of the world or that he is different than you and me or that he will never be able to do anything for himself or others. I wanted to give everyone a peek into our life to see how God has blessed us through the good and bad times. The page and the blog are about CAMDEN, what he goes through, and what I go through as his mother. I like to share our NORMAL everyday life. So yeah, there is going to mainly be talk about us. I’m not going to just post a picture of Camden and say, “hey, this is Camden, he’s limbless and you shouldn’t look at him and think he is different… or stare… or talk behind our backs… Shame on you if you did! You should just look at his heart even though you can’t see it in this picture.” Yes I am being sarcastic… I like to post normal things, like talking about how cute and chubby he is, how proud I am to be his mom, or talk about something new that he figured out! We are just your normal everyday Mommy and son. There is nothing special about us. We are no different than the other Mommy with the 4 month old baby with arms and legs. I want everyone to see that.
Camden is only 4 months old. I don’t know all the ins and outs of this stuff… We just started!! Is this person expecting me to go out tomorrow and start some organization for kids with limb deformities and spend less time Mothering my child… You know, because God made me Camden’s mom to go make sure that everyone else knows YESTERDAY about kids like Camden, God didn’t make me his Mother to feed him, bathe him, clothe him, and go 3 days without taking a shower. And for this person to think that I am asking for PITY! That is so insulting! I have never once said boohoo me or boohoo Camden. I don’t feel sorry for myself, nor do I feel sorry for Camden. I don’t want ANYONE to feel sorry for us. There is no reason to be! I’m still trying to figure out why anyone would feel sorry at all… Because he was born without arms and legs? Big deal, he’ll figure out how to do things. Don’t you think that if we all were born with just heads and an butt on the back of it we’d figure out some way to wipe it… I mean, why in the world would I want someone to feel sorry for him? He isn’t unable. He does it different. Yeah, there will be some things that he cannot do… But I can’t ride a bike or swim that well. There are so many things I can’t do. Do you feel sorry for me now? One day, I would like to make a difference in the world in a bigger way than just posting about Camden and his accomplishments and our accomplishments as a family, but that is the only way I know how to make a difference at the moment.